My daughter went to spend some time with her aunt yesterday and for the first time in almost two years, her aunt mentioned her girlfriend. Her aunt, for years, has shoved religion down her throat and made a point in mentioning that homosexuality isn’t one of the things she approves of. This week however, things have changed for the better.
To keep the peace within the family, my daughter has never mentioned her GF beyond that she has one, and that they do stuff together. I know it’s always hurt her when they invite her brother’s GF to family gatherings, but make no mention of my daughter’s GF. I think (or hope) this has just changed.
Over dinner during their outing, Aunt mentions daughter’s GF. Daughter gets very tense and quiet, prepping for the battle she’s been expecting for some time. Instead, the words that come from Aunt’s mouth are, “So, are you happy?” “How long have you been together?” “How serious are you two?” The questions of a normal conversation.
To say my daughter was relieved to not have a battle royal inside Olive Garden is an understatement. But what excited her most about her outing with her aunt was the acceptance. Maybe not whole and complete, but a step in the right direction.
Yesterday, my daughter came home happy and excited. Giddy really, that things were no more open with the aunt she loves, and a barrier between them had been broken through.
But it shouldn’t have been that way to begin with. I am relieved that their relationship has taken a step in the right direction, but just the same, sad that it took almost two years to get that way.